INSTRUCTOR SPOTLIGHT: MELIZA

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1: NAME

Meliza Dalila Fernandez

2: HOW OLD ARE YOU? WHAT CITY WERE YOU BORN? WHERE ARE YOUR PARENTS FROM?

I’m 32 yrs old. Born and raised in Brooklyn, NY. My parents are from one of my favorite cities in the whole wide world, Santiago, Dominican Republic

3: HOW DID YOU FIRST HEAR ABOUT THE VIXEN WORKOUT?

Someone randomly tagged me on a Vixen IG post about an audition.

4: WHAT MADE YOU DECIDE TO AUDITION TO BECOME AN INSTRUCTOR?

I didn’t put much thought into it, I saw the date Janet was in town for the audition and went to the hotel where it was held. All of a sudden the craziest rainstorm began, Janet got stuck in traffic and the girls and I waited for an hour. That day we didn’t dance, but once i met Janet and heard her story i had told myself this is where i need to be. A month later she was back in NYC and held the real auditions, I had no idea what to expect, so you could imagine how elated I was to be NYCs very first Vixen instructor. Little did I know how my life would transition.

5: HOW HAS VIXEN CHANGED YOUR LIFE? (PERSONALLY, NOT AS AN INSTRUCTOR)

The moment I decided to open my heart and life to something unknown, only blessings came my way. I’ve never been shy, I’ve always known what I’ve wanted and I’m super aggressive in chasing all of my goals. Where vixen helped me, was in owning who I am. Growing up as a performer, you pick yourself apart, you constantly compare yourself to everyone around and you don’t realize how unhealthy that can be. When I saw how these women accepted me, how they supported me and how generous their love was, I realized my power wasn’t in my shape or how great of a dancer or actress i was, but more in my ability to connect and bring out the best in those around me.

Funny enough after vixen, I got engaged, married and had a beautiful baby boy. Shifting your perspective really brings blessings to your life.
6: HOW HAS BEING A VIXEN INSTRUCTOR CHANGED YOUR LIFE?

It shed light on something I never knew I wanted. Vixen is not my side job, I quit it all to make fitness my career. I fell in love with the way we’ve been able to help women and decided that this is what I wanted to do,Use my gifts to help unveil others Gifts. Aside from all the recognition in the fitness industry, being in instructor helped me see that I have too much left in me to settle for anything. At 32 I’m dreaming bigger than I ever have.

7: WHAT IS YOUR STANDOUT MOMENT AS AN INSTRUCTOR? ARE THERE ANY CLIENT STORIES THAT HAVE AFFECTED YOU?

I think this is the hardest question. I was kidnapped post class by vixens in ski masks, behind my back they had collected money and planned the most amazing bridal shower a girl could dream of. Have you seen my wedding videos? Because the #vixenarmyNYC made it unforgettable with their surprise performance, or can we talk about my baby shower, where the ladies went above and beyond. I must emphasize, these aren’t “clients” i hate that term. No client does that, the #vixenarmyNYC are MY GIRLS, they are family. They are the ones I share my stories with so they know they are never alone in what they are going through. I get at least 4 emails a month, and after class convos with amazing women who want to share how their life has been affected. I am humbled by the thought that my loud, crazy self had anything to do with that.  From overcoming deaths, cancer to abuse, the Vixen workout has given them an outlet to grow above and beyond whatever they are going through.

8: WHAT ADVICE DO YOU HAVE ON STAYING FIT DURING PREGNANCY?

DO NOT STOP WHAT YOU ARE DOING! (OF COURSE IF ITS A NORMAL LOW RISK PREGNANCY). You have a little miracle growing inside of you that will only thrive if their mom is content and healthy. MOVEMENT keeps me happy.

YOU VIXENED PASSED YOUR DUE DATE!  TELL US HOW? AND DID THAT HELP YOU GET THROUGH YOUR PREGNANCY?

OMG guys, I was pregnant all of 2015. Literally towards the end I started to think that maybe this was it for me, I would be pregnant forever and just have to accept this phenomenon I was sure I was, haha. I was scared, I was scared of losing everything I had worked so hard to accept. For some reason the minute I found out I was going to have a baby, my drive doubled. I went harder then ever at Vixen, I got recruited to be an instructor at SoulCycle and started my own company Killer Bodies. Vixen helped me to not lose myself during my pregnancy.

9: PLEASE GIVE ADVICE TO NEW MOMS TRYING TO JUGGLE MOTHERHOOD AND CHASING THEIR DREAMS?  WHAT ADVICE DO YOU HAVE FOR NEW MOMS TRYING TO GAIN THEIR CONFIDENCE BACK?

First of all, I never imagined motherhood being as hard as it is. I love my mami, but it wasn’t until I had my gordo that i truly understood why moms are angels sent to us by the universe!

Ladies, putting yourself second to anyone, including your baby, will help no one in the long run. Understand that your life will change, that is OKAY. You will grow and tap into another side you never thought existed. It will be challenging but never impossible, Sebastian actually made me hungrier and want to fight harder for my dreams. I want me son to look at me and see that you have to fight and work for the things you want in life. I want him to know the true value and worth of things, I want him to know that regardless of how many times life knocks you down, you breathe, take a moment and get back up and go harder. One morning you will wake up feeling like you can conquer the world, and some mornings, us new moms feel like we’ve been defeated, that is NORMAL. So my new moms, my moms to be, in order to give love we must be filled with self love. In order to be our best self we must be actively working towards that. You’ll be surprised at what is possible when quitting is not an option.
Confidence, that can be tricky.
Let me share, I had a near perfect pregnancy followed my a terrible labor. I was two weeks past my due date when i had to be induced. After hours on hours of waiting, I wouldn’t dilate at all. i’ll save some of the gruesome details, but one story short, when Sebastian was ready to make his grand entrance into the world, I pushed so hard I suffered 4 THIRD degree lacerations, In places no one ever should. After he was out, I saw a lot of commotion but was unaware of what was going on. I fainted and then flat lined. I woke up later, to a room of family crying, my husband in shot, mom on her knees praying, and nothing has been the same since.
I cried non stop for two months everyday, my body did not feel the same and that began to affect the way i felt about myself. I couldn’t do one milkshake without peeing on myself a little, I’m sorry for all the TMI, but I want to be as real as possible. It happens, You are not less of a women, just life it took 9 months to make the bundle of joy it will probably take that long for it to slowly get back to place. Now i can say this, the frantic crying became less and less when i started to teach again. That room, with all that power, filled with woman hungry to let go of all the things that have held them back for so long, that room has magic for me.
So my advice would be, regardless of how tired you are, how gross you may feel, take a little bit of time, EVERYDAY, for yourself. On my worst days, you will see me with my hair done, eyeliner on point  etc. Because it is on your worst day Ladies that we fight the hardest.
10: WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE VIXEN ROUTINE?

Ahhhh, Bugatti because it was my first, but the BOOTY BATTLE ALWAYS GETS THE WIN.

11: IF YOU WERE A POPSTAR, WHAT WOULD YOUR POPSTAR NAME BE?

Could i cheat and use Murdamel? lol

12: WHY DO THEY CALL YOU MURDAMEL?

I have no idea how this started. I was blessed with tons of energy, I don’t know where i get it from and you could feel that in any class i lead. After class the vixens would take pics and start joking about how in my class you may die but you will be brought back to life. It started to catch on and before i knew that became my name. I still think its super funny, and sometimes worry it may intimate some, I promise I’m sweet!

13: WHATS YOUR FAVORITE CHEAT FOOD?

DONUTSSSSSS, and pizza and MANGU with SALAMI, QUESO FRITO AND EGGS ( MORIR SONANDO on the side).

14: YOUR FAVORITE QUOTE?
The best thing you can do is Master the Chaos in you. You are not thrown into the fire, you ARE the fire
15: YOUR LIFE MOTTO
Always changes for me. Right now it’s “Feel the fear, and do it anyway!”